I don’t want to look stupid”. When you are more worried about your image than connecting with the people in front of you, you limit the value you can add to those people.

Discerning people will perceive that a percentage of your brain is dedicated to conveying perfection and another percentage to the shame-guilt when you don’t achieve that. 

Perfection doesn’t exist. Authenticity and growth does

Therefore, if you truly want to connect with others, it is worthwhile lowering the barrier of excessive concern for your image.

To lower it:

PLAY

Chasing is not equivalent to living

Here are two examples of the difference between image and playing in concrete examples of communication.

JOB INTERVIEW

IMAGE

Memorizing the answers and panicking if they ask you something you haven’t prepared.

Thoughts

PLAYING

Being clear on your strengths, weaknesses, vision, values and achievements, and rehearsing your stories and data that prove them.

Thoughts

PRESENTATION TED-STYLE

IMAGE:

Prepare something that you think will impress others, versus considering if it’s really useful and of interest.

Thoughts:

PLAYING:

Preparing something that you feel really enthusiastic about and researching your public in order to speak their language.

Thoughts:

Play with curiosity to have fun and to learn. As an inevitable result, you will improve your communication and connect better with others.

A space to Reconnect & Refuel, to start to make a lasting change in your life